i woke up christmas morning to my 4 year old granddaughter in her jammies and christmas socks calling my name most insistently. my children are grown, so this year that was a new (revisited) twist on christmas. she was so excited as to be hyper. she's 4, and thanks in the main to what i suppose i must call her father, has post traumatic stress disorder. so...we had christmas morning. this year (for her) there was a tree. there were porcelain statues of santa and his team, angels...the works. she had a wonderful christmas day. she got to know my sister and her cousins from birmingham at my mother's house later that day, and got more presents. i'll post a pic of her with santa later when one of the boys is here to show me how to do it.
her "father" is an escapee. his aunt is helping hide him out. i used to trust her. no more.
the aunt kept calling over here wanting to see Patricia for christmas, and give her gifts. she wanted us to bring her over. i was having no part of it. last night, without so much as a phone call, my husband and granddaughter got home very late. i was about to have the boys drive around checking the highway for a possible wreck. no...wait...it was o.k. no big deal. seems my husband had actually taken my granddaughter to see the lowlife. divorce is not an option right now. i have a son in college on am academic scholarship (4 A's and 1 high B his first semester), and the school is close to the house. also, i think DHR would take another look at my granddaughter's placement were my husband and i to divorce. she cannot handle the only other people she knows and trusts being out of her life, and put god knows where. so here i stay, fighting the good fight.
and so this is christmas. sorry for all the bitching. i know many have much worse situations than do i. so fuck it. "buy the ticket, take the ride" i bought the ticket when i married this man, so for now, for my son and granddaughter, i'll roll with the punches and protect the kids as best i can.
i hope you all had love and light this christmas. though mostly gone, i still think of many of you as friends in cyberspace. be well. have courage. live for love, and those you can help along the way.
~~~comfy
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QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Dec 29 2005, 12:55 PM)
i woke up christmas morning to my 4 year old granddaughter in her jammies and christmas socks calling my name most insistently. my children are grown, so this year that was a new (revisited) twist on christmas. she was so excited as to be hyper. she's 4, and thanks in the main to what i suppose i must call her father, has post traumatic stress disorder. so...we had christmas morning. this year (for her) there was a tree. there were porcelain statues of santa and his team, angels...the works. she had a wonderful christmas day. she got to know my sister and her cousins from birmingham at my mother's house later that day, and got more presents. i'll post a pic of her with santa later when one of the boys is here to show me how to do it.
her "father" is an escapee. his aunt is helping hide him out. i used to trust her. no more.
the aunt kept calling over here wanting to see Patricia for christmas, and give her gifts. she wanted us to bring her over. i was having no part of it. last night, without so much as a phone call, my husband and granddaughter got home very late. i was about to have the boys drive around checking the highway for a possible wreck. no...wait...it was o.k. no big deal. seems my husband had actually taken my granddaughter to see the lowlife. divorce is not an option right now. i have a son in college on am academic scholarship (4 A's and 1 high B his first semester), and the school is close to the house. also, i think DHR would take another look at my granddaughter's placement were my husband and i to divorce. she cannot handle the only other people she knows and trusts being out of her life, and put god knows where. so here i stay, fighting the good fight.
and so this is christmas. sorry for all the bitching. i know many have much worse situations than do i. so fuck it. "buy the ticket, take the ride" i bought the ticket when i married this man, so for now, for my son and granddaughter, i'll roll with the punches and protect the kids as best i can.
i hope you all had love and light this christmas. though mostly gone, i still think of many of you as friends in cyberspace. be well. have courage. live for love, and those you can help along the way.
~~~comfy
her "father" is an escapee. his aunt is helping hide him out. i used to trust her. no more.
the aunt kept calling over here wanting to see Patricia for christmas, and give her gifts. she wanted us to bring her over. i was having no part of it. last night, without so much as a phone call, my husband and granddaughter got home very late. i was about to have the boys drive around checking the highway for a possible wreck. no...wait...it was o.k. no big deal. seems my husband had actually taken my granddaughter to see the lowlife. divorce is not an option right now. i have a son in college on am academic scholarship (4 A's and 1 high B his first semester), and the school is close to the house. also, i think DHR would take another look at my granddaughter's placement were my husband and i to divorce. she cannot handle the only other people she knows and trusts being out of her life, and put god knows where. so here i stay, fighting the good fight.
and so this is christmas. sorry for all the bitching. i know many have much worse situations than do i. so fuck it. "buy the ticket, take the ride" i bought the ticket when i married this man, so for now, for my son and granddaughter, i'll roll with the punches and protect the kids as best i can.
i hope you all had love and light this christmas. though mostly gone, i still think of many of you as friends in cyberspace. be well. have courage. live for love, and those you can help along the way.
~~~comfy
((((((((((COMFY))))))))))))))))
Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well.....
Comfy... I'm sorry that happened.
I can understand kind of where you are coming from, though, having my own similar experiences with my sons father. My son is 15 and has probably seen or heard from his father maybe a few dozen times in the past ten years. I tell ya, I'm a very understanding person when it comes to personal faults and failures....when someone needs a non-judgemental ear I am right there for them when they need it.... but I won't have my child and his emotions put through the ringer for ANYONE. I let my sons "father" drag me back and forth through all his addictions and convictions and "seeing the light" and all that other shit and I tell you it never ends until you end it yourself. I ended it the very first day that my son's life was put into danger. He hit me when I was holding my son and that was it. He spent the next three years trying to see us and as hard as it was...I made sure he never as much as even had a glance at my son.
Just recently (last yr) after a few phone calls he made to us...I allowed him to come to MY house for a visit, and only because my son wanted him to. He came, he left presents, he promised to call and come again and he never did. Wanna know why? Because I told him that I could not be an ear for him because it was damaging to me emotionally. He wants things to be as they were long ago and that will never, ever be again. I am like a rock when it comes to that.
Comfy, you do what you need to do for you and the ones you love...but please don't let it take you down. You are a strong person and I would hate to see someone take that away from you. (hug)
I'm sorry that happened. I can understand kind of where you are coming from, though, having my own similar experiences with my sons father. My son is 15 and has probably seen or heard from his father maybe a few dozen times in the past ten years. I tell ya, I'm a very understanding person when it comes to personal faults and failures....when someone needs a non-judgemental ear I am right there for them when they need it.... but I won't have my child and his emotions put through the ringer for ANYONE. I let my sons "father" drag me back and forth through all his addictions and convictions and "seeing the light" and all that other shit and I tell you it never ends until you end it yourself. I ended it the very first day that my son's life was put into danger. He hit me when I was holding my son and that was it. He spent the next three years trying to see us and as hard as it was...I made sure he never as much as even had a glance at my son.
Just recently (last yr) after a few phone calls he made to us...I allowed him to come to MY house for a visit, and only because my son wanted him to. He came, he left presents, he promised to call and come again and he never did. Wanna know why? Because I told him that I could not be an ear for him because it was damaging to me emotionally. He wants things to be as they were long ago and that will never, ever be again. I am like a rock when it comes to that.
Comfy, you do what you need to do for you and the ones you love...but please don't let it take you down. You are a strong person and I would hate to see someone take that away from you. (hug)
QUOTE (frankenfood @ Dec 29 2005, 02:20 PM)
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Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well.....
Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well.....
Yep, she is.
QUOTE (frankenfood @ Dec 29 2005, 02:20 PM)
QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Dec 29 2005, 12:55 PM)
i woke up christmas morning to my 4 year old granddaughter in her jammies and christmas socks calling my name most insistently. my children are grown, so this year that was a new (revisited) twist on christmas. she was so excited as to be hyper. she's 4, and thanks in the main to what i suppose i must call her father, has post traumatic stress disorder. so...we had christmas morning. this year (for her) there was a tree. there were porcelain statues of santa and his team, angels...the works. she had a wonderful christmas day. she got to know my sister and her cousins from birmingham at my mother's house later that day, and got more presents. i'll post a pic of her with santa later when one of the boys is here to show me how to do it.
her "father" is an escapee. his aunt is helping hide him out. i used to trust her. no more.
the aunt kept calling over here wanting to see Patricia for christmas, and give her gifts. she wanted us to bring her over. i was having no part of it. last night, without so much as a phone call, my husband and granddaughter got home very late. i was about to have the boys drive around checking the highway for a possible wreck. no...wait...it was o.k. no big deal. seems my husband had actually taken my granddaughter to see the lowlife. divorce is not an option right now. i have a son in college on am academic scholarship (4 A's and 1 high B his first semester), and the school is close to the house. also, i think DHR would take another look at my granddaughter's placement were my husband and i to divorce. she cannot handle the only other people she knows and trusts being out of her life, and put god knows where. so here i stay, fighting the good fight.
and so this is christmas. sorry for all the bitching. i know many have much worse situations than do i. so fuck it. "buy the ticket, take the ride" i bought the ticket when i married this man, so for now, for my son and granddaughter, i'll roll with the punches and protect the kids as best i can.
i hope you all had love and light this christmas. though mostly gone, i still think of many of you as friends in cyberspace. be well. have courage. live for love, and those you can help along the way.
~~~comfy
her "father" is an escapee. his aunt is helping hide him out. i used to trust her. no more.
the aunt kept calling over here wanting to see Patricia for christmas, and give her gifts. she wanted us to bring her over. i was having no part of it. last night, without so much as a phone call, my husband and granddaughter got home very late. i was about to have the boys drive around checking the highway for a possible wreck. no...wait...it was o.k. no big deal. seems my husband had actually taken my granddaughter to see the lowlife. divorce is not an option right now. i have a son in college on am academic scholarship (4 A's and 1 high B his first semester), and the school is close to the house. also, i think DHR would take another look at my granddaughter's placement were my husband and i to divorce. she cannot handle the only other people she knows and trusts being out of her life, and put god knows where. so here i stay, fighting the good fight.
and so this is christmas. sorry for all the bitching. i know many have much worse situations than do i. so fuck it. "buy the ticket, take the ride" i bought the ticket when i married this man, so for now, for my son and granddaughter, i'll roll with the punches and protect the kids as best i can.
i hope you all had love and light this christmas. though mostly gone, i still think of many of you as friends in cyberspace. be well. have courage. live for love, and those you can help along the way.
~~~comfy
((((((((((COMFY))))))))))))))))
Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well.....
im hoping for things to right themselves for you. good luck
QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Dec 30 2005, 01:04 AM)
awwww.
now my youngest just found out about "the real santa" this year. didnt bother him too much. thats a great picture cn....cept im not convinced that santa has the best taste in upholstery....lol
Awww..Comfy...she's a cutie. 
STUNNING...JUST STUNNING
frankenfood Posted Yesterday, 02:20 PM
thanks franken. i value your online friendship quite a bit. this is much appreciated.
Amy7779311 Posted Yesterday, 02:22 PM
heya amy. sorry to hear you had to go through all that SHIT. the wrong guy will do it every time eh? been through bad times like most of us and still seem to be one of the cheerier people on the board. you have strength as well. franken, most all of you guys i've seen strength in in some form or fashion.
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.
thanks jim, bean, and ST.
thanks for the comments on her pic as well, though it's not a real good one. she squinted up her eyes 'cos she knew what was coming. damn her -*cough*choke- father for being a blond anyway.
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Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well..... icon_grouphug.gif
Your granddaughter is fortunate to have you....
wishing you love and light, as well..... icon_grouphug.gif
thanks franken. i value your online friendship quite a bit. this is much appreciated.
Amy7779311 Posted Yesterday, 02:22 PM
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Comfy... icon_grouphug.gif I'm sorry that happened.
I can understand kind of where you are coming from, though, having my own similar experiences with my sons father. My son is 15 and has probably seen or heard from his father maybe a few dozen times in the past ten years. I tell ya, I'm a very understanding person when it comes to personal faults and failures....when someone needs a non-judgemental ear I am right there for them when they need it.... but I won't have my child and his emotions put through the ringer for ANYONE. I let my sons "father" drag me back and forth through all his addictions and convictions and "seeing the light" and all that other shit and I tell you it never ends until you end it yourself. I ended it the very first day that my son's life was put into danger. He hit me when I was holding my son and that was it. He spent the next three years trying to see us and as hard as it was...I made sure he never as much as even had a glance at my son.
Just recently (last yr) after a few phone calls he made to us...I allowed him to come to MY house for a visit, and only because my son wanted him to. He came, he left presents, he promised to call and come again and he never did. Wanna know why? Because I told him that I could not be an ear for him because it was damaging to me emotionally. He wants things to be as they were long ago and that will never, ever be again. I am like a rock when it comes to that.
Comfy, you do what you need to do for you and the ones you love...but please don't let it take you down. You are a strong person and I would hate to see someone take that away from you. (hug)
I can understand kind of where you are coming from, though, having my own similar experiences with my sons father. My son is 15 and has probably seen or heard from his father maybe a few dozen times in the past ten years. I tell ya, I'm a very understanding person when it comes to personal faults and failures....when someone needs a non-judgemental ear I am right there for them when they need it.... but I won't have my child and his emotions put through the ringer for ANYONE. I let my sons "father" drag me back and forth through all his addictions and convictions and "seeing the light" and all that other shit and I tell you it never ends until you end it yourself. I ended it the very first day that my son's life was put into danger. He hit me when I was holding my son and that was it. He spent the next three years trying to see us and as hard as it was...I made sure he never as much as even had a glance at my son.
Just recently (last yr) after a few phone calls he made to us...I allowed him to come to MY house for a visit, and only because my son wanted him to. He came, he left presents, he promised to call and come again and he never did. Wanna know why? Because I told him that I could not be an ear for him because it was damaging to me emotionally. He wants things to be as they were long ago and that will never, ever be again. I am like a rock when it comes to that.
Comfy, you do what you need to do for you and the ones you love...but please don't let it take you down. You are a strong person and I would hate to see someone take that away from you. (hug)
heya amy. sorry to hear you had to go through all that SHIT. the wrong guy will do it every time eh? been through bad times like most of us and still seem to be one of the cheerier people on the board. you have strength as well. franken, most all of you guys i've seen strength in in some form or fashion.
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.
thanks jim, bean, and ST.
thanks for the comments on her pic as well, though it's not a real good one. she squinted up her eyes 'cos she knew what was coming. damn her -*cough*choke- father for being a blond anyway.
Comfers, she's adorable with a winning smile!
bean,
i adore your new av. kill bill rocked.
i adore your new av. kill bill rocked.
QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Dec 30 2005, 03:26 PM)
heya amy. sorry to hear you had to go through all that SHIT. the wrong guy will do it every time eh? been through bad times like most of us and still seem to be one of the cheerier people on the board. you have strength as well. franken, most all of you guys i've seen strength in in some form or fashion.
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.Â
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.Â
Aw, well ty.
You know the old saying...what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I can certainly relate to that one. Great luck to you in this new year. Back 'atcha...
QUOTE (Amy7779311 @ Jan 1 2006, 10:00 PM)
QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Dec 30 2005, 03:26 PM)
heya amy. sorry to hear you had to go through all that SHIT. the wrong guy will do it every time eh? been through bad times like most of us and still seem to be one of the cheerier people on the board. you have strength as well. franken, most all of you guys i've seen strength in in some form or fashion.
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.Â
of course i'll do what i have to. always have. thanks kiddo.Â
Aw, well ty.
You know the old saying...what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I can certainly relate to that one. Great luck to you in this new year. Back 'atcha...
Hello Comfy. Your Grandaughter is beautiful and that smile is a knockout. Seeing her reminded me of our own daughter who died at 13. When she was that age she looked much like your grand daughter,same hair style,color and joyful demeanor as Alicia had.
I hope you re-read this thread
http://www.ethicdiscussion.com/discuss/ind...topic=9101&st=0
and remember that at least you can have a future that will be scarred by past family mistakes but still capeable of healing. Always put your best foot and words forward in such a manner that anger with others can never control your life. Push all the anger away and relish every moment you have with such a child and pray that the rest of your family can treat her as you do. A child loved can push a lot of crap to one side and heal a lot of family wounds. At least you still have her and her family. You can and most likely will change for the better as time moves forward. At least you are a strong anchor for her to share those special times with. That is your bonus out of the mix. You all have a chance to find a better path in life. Our path with Alicia ended so abruptly that I am very happy to come together as family, to share a common grief with No Regrets..
God Bless you and yours
Donnie
Donnie..you are a strong person yourself.
What nice wishes you have for Comfy.
What nice wishes you have for Comfy.
QUOTE (Amy7779311 @ Jan 2 2006, 10:10 PM)
Donnie..you are a strong person yourself.
What nice wishes you have for Comfy.
What nice wishes you have for Comfy.
Can't help myself. She was a Gregory Peck and Jimmy Stewart fan.
QUOTE (comfortablynumb @ Jan 1 2006, 08:29 PM)
bean,
i adore your new av. kill bill rocked.
i adore your new av. kill bill rocked.
So far, two of the best movies of the 21st century, with "best" being subjective and all that shit.
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